10 WAYS    TO DISTROY OUR MARRIAGE 

The funny legend says that after God created Adam and Eve and happened that Adam 

was late in work in the field and left Eve alone, Eve complained in Adam and while he was asleep, he counted his ribs. Is there a rib missing? Maybe God took another rib from his ribs and created another girl and was amazed that his ribs We destroy our lives when we give in to our fears

              1 - Focus on the needs more than your marriage:

We can not fill a love bank for our marriage if we focus on how empty we are. Marriage is not a commercial project. Its goal is to earn the biggest and most profitable benefit in marriage. No one wins and another loses. Both win or lose together. Do not focus on your needs. Think about how much you take but change your way of thinking. And you will discover that while you are given, you take more than what was given needs is not a field of war or conflict but a way to express the other love that I know the need and seek to fill the need to find the need for love and safety and reassurance and comfort and stability in the other We complement each other example in the game Albazl every space in the piece supplement Other pieces and this is the true pictures of the bazel are shown so life Each space inside us is complemented by the other and vice versa So we can live together in harmony and love

2 - to put children before your marriage

Our children are the cause of joy and affection for all spouses, but if they take care of their children only without regard to the needs of the other, gradually become a great gap and cool their love so must balance the interest between children and life partner and make more effort to give each individual rights prefer the couple's attention to the most important because each supports The other is faced with the problems and challenges facing their children. There is a nice test. The answer is very difficult. Try to respond after thinking. You can know your priorities if your children and your husband or wife are together in a boat in the rough sea, and you should be thrown into the sea either your children or your husband or wife. It is received So you can complete sailing by boat in peace, what is the most important and what is sacrificed?

Some of them said, "He will give my soul for them

3 - keep his relationship harmful

Sometimes one of the parties insists on maintaining a relation to the pre-marriage as a mere friendship. If the relationship is harmful, it wastes the valuable time that I have to spend with the life partner. It is possible to leave the life partner alone at night and enjoy with my friends or dance and drink and enjoy my time neglecting my relationship with my wife. Relationship is more harmful if the other party of the relationship is a boy friend or girl friend in the past must be cut on this relationship for his marital life

. 4 - lack of respect in speech and action

Respect for the basic pillars in marital life and human relations In the absence of respect, the building of our lives collapses on us all and this shows in humiliation, beatings and deprivations and diminishing its value and talents and possibilities and revealing the secrets between them, but continue in this difficult life together and divorce is inevitable and things are very bad if the insult in The presence of children or friends of work or family This is moral killing, which is more severe than the knife sharp and causes internal bleeding in the heart and deep injury in the feelings and takes a long time to heal with the help of others and the help of the Lord, it is not worth respect first and respect II Respect forever

                   5 - Fasting silence and lack of dialogue

  Sometimes the boat of married life walks in a quiet and silent sea, the silence of the graves, but in the depths of the sea storms have been destroyed by it. Silence and lack of dialogue and participation in the feelings of joy and sadness and solving the problems of life together destroy the marital life, how do we know the needs of the other without dialogue? How can we encourage dialogue? How can we warn of danger without dialogue? Dialogue makes life, makes us and makes us stronger, more comfortable, and accepting ourselves. We must open our ears and hearts to the partner of our lives, so dialogue is food and medicine for them. When we murmured push the life partner to call, is he angry with me? Am I a loser with him? Why is he silent? Do you still love me? Express your feelings even if your negative is better

 6. Non-compliance with duties and promises

Marriage is not only fun and advantages, but the responsibilities and duties and everyone in the family role in the work and education and protection and cleaning the house and arrange and prepare food and care for the garden if found and washing the car and the work of school duties and help children in duty. These responsibilities are distributed to all members of the family. The husband is not only a husband, but a father and wife is not only a wife, he is a mother. Marital life is like a boat with two paddles, each one with his paddle paddling together, and the boat advances forward, so if one of them works and the other refuses, then we find that the boat rotates and does not move forward. Sometimes one of the parties exaggerates in his promises to the other party during the engagement actually prevents him from achieving his promises if you can not do not promise do not deceive the other party

Do your utmost and complete your role in the success of the relationship, it deserves.than silence

                7 - neglect the intimate relationship and sexual relationship in marriage

One of the parties abstains from getting married from practicing love for many reasons, such that the goal of sex is to have children only. The relationship is painful, disgusting or imprudent, or because of exhaustion at work or at home or preoccupied with work all day and every day.

Whatever the reasons, sexual relationship is very important even with time if sex lost pleasure is important because it carries a message says I love you, you are a desirable person, you are a sexy person, there is convergence not only at the level of the body but on the level of feelings, melt mountains of snow in the relationship and ignite Love again, when neglect arises ask him no answer

Do you still love me? Is there anyone else in his life who satisfies this need? Do I need more or more attention to my appearance?

And these questions are frequently raised by the wife, especially when she reaches menopause, and her husband needs more than before to assure her love, affection and attention. And the problem is increased if one of the parties hot and the other a panel of snow, how to satisfy the need? Do not destroy your marital life and give the other party full rights he needs you.

8. Possession and control over the other

  Love does not mean ownership. Your wife or husband is not your slave and no employee in the company controls his decisions and his future and kills his ambition in work and adhering to the opinion and not sharing the other opinion destroys marriage. It is a strong personality leads and controls and does not give consideration to the other person, the more love you will be given freedom more dictatorship does not build houses to force your children to a relationship or a kind of education gave them freedom of choice gave them the opportunity to learn from right and wrong and with the supervision and guidance and give advice Let them bear the result of their choice Whatever the results, the family members participated in the decision and think about the best choice. Do not compensate for the lack of personality at the expense of others, you destroy your life

9 - lack of generosity in money and feelings

Sometimes they forget that they are living for others and their happiness from others happiness, what is the benefit of money, but the happiness and help others. Many people are wasting money on their families and living in poverty. They own a lot of money and deprive them of the pleasures of life because of their keenness on money, and the amazes and the most dangerous to express the gratitude and feelings of others. Often this person suffered from deprivation in childhood and the need for money. He does not have feelings. How can he be given the deprivation that generates hatred, coercion and extreme anger, and drives some, such as wife or children, to steal or deviate from morality?

Be generous and tender. Open your hand and your heart to those who love you

They are like flowers that need the water of love and the warmth of feelings of interest and affection of dew and food do not kill them, and do not push your wife to the betrayal in search of interest and words praise and praise to them.

10. Marital betrayal destroys marriage

Marital adultery destroys marital life just like throwing a bomb in the house What do you expect to happen It breaks the link between the couple and distort all beautiful and all ethical values ​​fall and lose children joy and makes them afraid of association for fear of injury and infidelity

What drives the husband or wife to betray

1- Unsatisfied needs

2 - the strong need for love and attention

3 - The husband's preoccupation with the work not to give the wife time and vice versa

4 - mixing and increase with the sexes alone for a long time

5 - neglect of sexual practice regularly in a satisfactory manner to the other party with the renewal in the practice and give time enough to love and avoid boredom in the relationship

6 - loss of the romantic situation and appear in the sweet talk and roses and candles and all of the life given by the joy and acceptance, especially if one of the parties romantic and longing to the times of romance of the prettiest and before and embrace

7 - Take revenge on the other person who insulted and neglected and the matter constantly and unfair comparisons between him and others that they are the most beautiful and the most powerful and the best and see all the defects in the life partner and do not see any advantages

8 - Exposure to the temptation and not to address him or his partner or spouse involvement in the relationship is not desirable Need to resolve and make quick decisions before it is too late

Sometimes infidelity is not only a complete sexual relationship, it is possible that the infidelity is only a love and attachment to a person who is not a partner, a life and a sense of satisfaction with his encounter, joy and romantic practices

Often the shock when one knows that the couple is betraying the other is hard to believe, the other pays for despair, suicide or murder, or more drinking, loses appetite, loses his work and his desire for life

The most vulnerable to betrayal are boys who feel insecure, lack of trust and fear of the future

The increase in divorces, especially among young people during the first five years, has reached about 50% and one family of five families in America occurs in divorce, one of which is marital infidelity. Keep your family beautiful in life.